Every story told has a lesson to be learned. This is how Kuya Bojie have told me many times before and this is how Aesop nailed it with his numerous fables, which more or less formed the minds of the not so lunatic generation of today.
Extracting every lesson from an animal-charactered tale is easy, but how are we going to recognize each moral bit, face up, when it is staring right at us?
Personally, I often find myself in a same situation again and again and again...without the faintest hint that I am learning. It never fails to make me wonder if I'm just being masochistic, so much so that I began to question myself, "why the heck am I still in this f*cking situation? Have I begun to love the pain because at some point it makes me feel I'm alive?"
On that exact moment, I was stunned. My trail of thought was stupid..not to mention a bit psychotic! Then on, I chose to recall every memory, every boy, every experience I had and shut my eyes so tight just to peep to my inner views if I have something to get from those bitter-sweet instances.
And indeed I had...Just to share a few, here is the list of lessons learned...
** Don't say I love you when you don't mean it. Its misleading and its heartbreaking every time you have to take it back.
** Don't go into a relationship with a close friend when you know that you're just being lured by the thought of finally being in a relationship. The friendship will never be the same again even if you tell yourself that you ended up in good terms or still in contact with him as friends. He will always be a guy that you once kissed, and he will never be the "guy-friend" again but instead he'll be the "ex-but-but-still-a-friend" guy to you.
** Some things are better left unsaid. It could have saved a million relationships and spared us a handful of heart aches.
** Do not settle for something that you feel is a bit shorthanded. Always remember your worth.
** Do not patronize or make excuses for your boyfriend to friends or other people. They can see through you.
** Do not enter into a relationship with somebody who's involved with somebody else or married or married with kids or living in with somebody else (with kids or none)...you will almost always be on the losing side. Many suicides were made of this.
** Do not interchange the "in-love" feeling with the "I'm-getting-the-greatest-sex-of-my-life" feeling. Its not the same, although both feels great.
** FB doesn't work. How many times more should there be a ruined friendship before you realize its not worth it.
** Never assume that somebody loves you if it is not said yet. Even if you really feel you're being loved..it will always be world-shattering once you learn that he didn't.
** Shake off any tendencies of loneliness once it hit you or you'll end up again in a raw-under-developed relationship that will soon be added to your horrendous list.
** Think first before you say things that might hurt or ruin the relationship. At least 50 times over. These will never be taken back and will be there haunting your thoughts every time.
** Save a little for you. Do not go overboard.
** Do not rely on somebody just to feel happy. One cannot take all the load. The responsibility rests to yours alone.
** Love yourself first
So many things to write so little time so little space....
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